Dear Abby letter

[dimity_blue]

It's from today's column.

DEAR ABBY: I was with my boyfriend for two years when he left me for another woman. She was a lunatic who was possessive and jealous, not to mention desperate.

After a while, he realized what he had with me and wanted to come back. Because I still loved him, I gave him another chance.

Abby, she hasn't stopped calling him! She parks in his driveway overnight. She refuses to take no for an answer, although he stopped having anything to do with her.

Now for the kicker: For his birthday, she bought them both a trip to a Caribbean island -- and he accepted! He said he was going only for the trip, but I'm here and he is there with her now. What should I do?

Amazingly, Abby says to dump him, and I totally agree. What a loser of a boyfriend! I'm actually stunned that he thought it'd be okay and expects his (hopefully soon-to-be-ex) girlfriend to be okay with it too! I really, really hope the letterwriter sees sense and kicks him into orbit.

Comments

[scherwood]

Gah! I would dump him with a kick between the legs. *shakes head*

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

He's a total loser, IMO. So not worth any effort at all. I hope this woman has friends who'll talk her into your point of view.

[scherwood]

Yeah, I hope so too. :)

[catzslave.livejournal.com]

I had a friend who was like one of the girls from the article. He kept both strung along getting what he wanted from both, when he had a fight with one he'd go back to the other. The one he wasn't with he 'confided' with, on the problems he was having with the other. Sheesh. I'm surprised guys can still get away with this stuff.

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

Me too! But they'll still find women who'll get involved with them. It's incredible. It doesn't say anything good about the woman's state of mind that she thinks being with someone like that is better than being alone.

[marizilda.livejournal.com]

If I went she would buy a passage for Caribbean island also. It would go to stay making hellish the life of the two, exactly as to another one did.

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

That would serve them right too! But I suspect it would make her even more unhappy.

[amedia.livejournal.com]

I thought her advice was pretty good on that one. I just wish she had told the letter writer what an idiot she was for taking him back in the first place.

On the other hand, I was ticked off by her advice to the woman who wanted her kids to have Indian names (since she was from India) but whose husband wanted them to have "American" (by which I suspect he meant "European") names. Giving them European first names and Indian middle names isn't a compromise, it's just giving in to the husband! Aaaargh.

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

I agreed with Abby on that one (the dump him now one). It honestly amazes me what some people will try to get away with.

As for that other letter, I agree - that was no kind of compromise at all!

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

What a dumbshit! As Dan says, DTMFA.

Oh, and Arnie, dear? Tonight is the Oscars, and I believe GP will be required to put in an appearance...can we hope for more crazy??? You will be asleep, but I will email you!

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

What gets me is that if (hopefully) she dumps him, he'll go around telling all his friends that he hasn't got a clue why she's mad at him.

Ooh, Gwhiney at the Oscars? She's not nominated for anything, is she? Is she performing? I can't wait to see her outfit!

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

I think that stupid movie Country Strong has a song nominated...but I'm quite sure she'll be there. OH GWYNNIE PLS TOP THE PREMIER DRESS, PLEASE.

[tx-cronopio.livejournal.com]

Well, darn it, at least on the Red Carpet she looked completely elegant and appropriate -- Calvin Klein, I think. Maybe she'll change for the song she is supposed to perform, although I really hadn't intended to watch that long.

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I thought her dress was okay. I didn't like it much, but that's a difference of opinion as opposed to Gwyneth in a bad, bad outfit!

[patk.livejournal.com]

You know, that's the kind of letter that makes me question if any of them is ever real.

I can see taking a guy back if he honestly says he has made a mistake - after all, we all make mistakes and if the time they had was a good one he actually might deserve a second chance.

I also can understand sticking with him through the madness his possesive ex raises because that's still connected with said mistake and perhaps not his fault.

Nothing of this sounds particularly unrealistic to me.

But then - he's accepting an invitation from his ex to a trip to a Caribbean island and the writer doesn't know what she should do???

Eh...

Really?

This makes me suspicious and questioning the authenticity of the letter.

[dimity-blue.livejournal.com]

I don't know...some people really do doubt their own actions that much and need to hear it from an outside source "no, it's okay to not put up with this crap". If it's real though, I hope she dumps him from a great height.

[patk.livejournal.com]

If it's real, she should decorate him with a bow and shove him towards possessive ex-girlfriend with a letter to please, *please* keep him.

They'll be each others punishment. *g*